A self-worth & attachment curriculum
Making Sense of Your Worth
You were worthy before you did a single thing.
A step-by-step path out of shame and into a steady, inside-out sense of your own value.
What it is
Worth is not a performance.
Making Sense of Your Worth is a curriculum created by Cindy R. Lee, LCSW, in partnership with HALO Project International in Oklahoma City. It grew out of groups with domestic violence survivors and foster and adoptive parents: people who had learned to measure their value by how well they performed, pleased, or survived.
It rests on one distinction. Self-esteem rises and falls with what you do. Self-worth is the belief that you are worthy of being seen, heard, and valued, simply because you exist.
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The path
Five steps toward positive self-worth
Safety
Real safety and felt safety, plus a plan for support while you do hard work.
Truth
Understanding where the lies came from, and why they were never about you.
Rebuilding
Seeing how old beliefs shaped your choices, and letting new patterns grow.
Affirmation
Letting the truth about who you are land, and stay.
Forgiveness
On your timeline, within healthy boundaries, and never forced.
Grief often travels alongside these steps. That is part of healing, not a detour from it.
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Who it’s for
This may fit if you…
- Feel like you are never quite enough, no matter what you do
- Have been in a controlling or hurtful relationship
- People-please, over-function, or lose yourself in relationships
- Are a foster, adoptive, or kinship parent who wants to give a child what you didn’t get
- Want a calmer, more secure way of attaching to the people you love
Working together
Paced by you
The curriculum was first written as a group class, and it adapts well to weekly one-to-one sessions. That is how I offer it, by secure video anywhere in California.
We start with safety and a simple self-worth check-in, and we revisit that check-in at the end so you can see what has shifted. We never move into deeper work before you are ready for it.
Where it comes from
Learn more from HALO Project
HALO Project International, based in Oklahoma City, trains clinicians and caregivers in self-worth, attachment, and trauma-informed care, including Making Sense of Your Worth and Parenting for Positive Self-Worth.
Making Sense of Your Worth © Cindy R. Lee, LCSW, in partnership with HALO Project International. Michelle Moses is a qualified MSOYW® facilitator. This page is her own summary and is not produced or endorsed by HALO Project.
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